As a society, I feel like often times we look around and think, "When did everyone become a royal prick?" People can be such a**holes! And yet interestingly enough, there have been studies that suggest that people who are mean/condescending/patronizing are actually perceived as more intelligent. Wow. But to be honest, I think it's because in social circumstances we often forget to reward good behavior. If someone does something nice for us, we hardly even notice or even say anything. So why would anyone want to be nice if they are getting the same treatment as jerks? Especially in romantic situations. I swear, I have heard a billion experiences ranging from fairy tale like stories to horror creepy stalker people. And you know what? In the majority of these cases I only notice one thing between the two: the attractiveness of the person. Seriously. Just listen- A girl drops a notebook on the ground. A nice man picks it up. If he looks like a model, that girl will proceed to tell every other girl on the known planet about the experience and actually dedicate time to look for that man again. And if she sees him, she will get butterflies and think about Taylor Swift songs. If that man, however, happens to look like he was beaten with the ugly stick, she will probably get chills thinking she will soon be in the back of this man's car tied and duct taped and will tell a few people about the awkward encounter. I noticed one such experience the other day. I was in line for an event and as all of us were being pushed through we had the opportunity to sit for a while. To my right there was a boy (about 21 years old-ish) and to his right was another girl (about the same age). Now it was clear that they didn't know each other. Well she bumped him and apologized and they got to talking. She was complaining about obligations that she had that day and how horrific it was going to be. Now this boy, clearly smitten by her, started relating to her about his life and gave her what I thought was really good insight on how to make her life easier. I imagine if he had been talking to me I would have been really appreciative to him and thanked him. Even if it was completely useless I would have at least thrown out a "thank you". Then this girl's name was called and as she was getting up the boy said, "Hey, I hope it works out for you. Have a great day!" and she returned with a, "Mmhmm". What a sad experience. And to make matters worse, after the boy was called and left, an employee who had happen to overhear started ridiculing him in front of everyone else. I couldn't believe it. This boy got completely dejected all for just trying to be a good person. So seriously, even if you have zero interest in a conversation or a person, if someone does something nice for you, give them a smile and a gracious complement. There are enough douche bags in this P.O.S. world.
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What I've always wanted to say
AuthorD.A. Crane. |